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Give Yourself the PERMISSION You Need To ASK For HELP

Give Yourself the PERMISSION You Need To ASK for HELP

This is not Suzanna – this is her super fantastic assistant. She would call me that even if I wasn’t the one writing this, so it’s not cheating.  Promise.

I started that way because I want to tell you about something personal and it would be strange and awkward to not acknowledge my own story.  I’m daydreaming how this would look if someone approached Suzanna in the grocery store about it, and I’m giggling, but I need to get to the point.

I was totally the kid who wanted to do everything MY WAY.

Everything.

I’ve had well-meaning friends try to tell me this by joking it would be on my tombstone – “SHE DID IT HER WAY!”

It took unemployment, followed by a bone tumor to slow me down and teach me – to ask for help. Which frankly, is sad and very tragic. Feel sorry for me… I was stubbornly insisting I could do everything to the point where it was becoming a disease.

Thank God, you’re smarter than that.

I didn’t expect to be unemployed. I figured since I’d done everything right, the next job would just fall in my lap like they always did. I’m a smart a girl. I’m fun to hang out with. Why couldn’t I even get an interview? I spiraled into blame.

It’s not pretty.

You might want to cover your eyes and just peek through as you read. This stuff is not something you want to look at directly. It’s just plain pathetic.

I blamed my age. I blamed this town. I blamed internet systems, HR department dragons, and all of society at large. As if that would change anything. Ironically, if I’d used gratitude instead of blame this would be a completely different story.

Then, in my sullen state, I was diagnosed with a bone tumor. Walking and chores had been hurting me, but I was pushing through because if I didn’t do them, who would? My sweet and lovely, perfectly capable family, that’s who.

I was cutting my nose off to spite my face and I didn’t see it.

My then fifteen-year-old daughter, thirteen-year-old son, and wonderful husband had been right there the whole time. Wanting, nay – aching, to help. When they heard the diagnosis they plopped me in my favorite chair and lovingly scolded me. I then spent a painful few months – not lifting a finger.

I’ll confess, it was really freaking hard.

Asking for help can feel belittling. I felt like I was worthless. A lump.

I forgot that I was a lovely Mommy lump. That it didn’t matter that I couldn’t cook or clean up or anything. I was adored by my family because of who I am, not what I could do for them.

Listen to me – this is true about you, too. You are loved, not because of what you do for people but because of who you are. Your value isn’t work related. It’s just you.

Slowly it got easier. It had to happen. When I finally had surgery to remove the tumor I needed help with literally everything.

I needed help financially – and it was provided when I finally asked.

I needed help at home – and every time I asked, it was provided.

I needed  – and I was helped – every single time.

Don’t wait to learn this.

Now, I’m unstoppable and I border on cheeky. Yesterday when a friend texted she was coming over, I asked for her to bring chocolate. She did.

Think about this. Where do you need help in your life? Have you really asked for help? Have you been afraid, like I was, that people would say no?

Give yourself permission to just ask. Ask for silly things, “Hey let’s go to Jeremiah’s I want some tummy yummy.” Ask for big things, “I need real help organizing all my family photos since Mom died.”

Some of the things I needed, I had to pay for, which is very reasonable. I needed physical therapy. That’s not free but I had to go into that room like a baby. Vulnerable and pliable. It’s not easy but I can walk without pain because I did it.

It’s not easy to let someone see your mess. I totally get it.

However, it’s totally worth getting help.

It took getting laid up for me to give myself permission to look at life another way. Be smarter – learn from my mistakes.

If this has touched your heart in any way – please share it with a friend on FB. If you see yourself – pick up the phone, schedule an appointment. Get help.

 

Ruth Zeman

 


SuzaSuzannanna Kaye is a professional organizer and owner of Spark! Organizing, LLC.

She has special experience with organization for office, financial, ADD/ADHD, elderly, disabled, overwhelmed and special needs. With the belief that cluttered people are some of the most creative and interesting people she knows, she loves working with her clients in a supportive and loving environment. For more information about Suzanna visit our about us page, email info@SparkOrganizing.com or call 321-234-5499

 

 

The Depression Connection: Is Your House Worsening Your Depression?

The Depression Connection:

Is your house worsening your depression?

Depression comes in many shapes and forms.

It can have triggers. It can be seasonal or chemical.depression

In all of its forms, it’s a beast that wants to take over your life.  This is not a fairytale cartoon. You can’t just kiss this booboo.

The beast is not waiting for a rose petal to fall so that life will return in full glory. Sadly, depressed people often make their spaces into dark cocoons. Closing the blinds. Letting dust gather. Piles of put off decisions gather. This might make the sufferer feel better but… Continue reading

What Do You Do With Your Precious Memories? The ONE with Memorabilia

The ONE with Memorabiliamemorabilia

Organizing our precious memorabilia can be a nightmare. Between knowing what to save, how to save it and who it was from. You can find yourself swimming in a sea of emotions. This can make dealing with our memorabilia very stressful.

It’s enough to tempt the average person to light a match and just watch it all burn.

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Traveling with Kids

Traveling with Kids

Traveling with kids is for the BRAVE. They present a whole new adventure. traveling with kids

Kids come with extra details that you must absolutely pay attention to! I learned this the hard way….. Trust me when I say the story is too much for your delicate hearing. Plus if I told you we’d all need drinks and we’re trying to stay sober for this, pay attention…. Continue reading

7 Free or Almost Free Father’s Day Gifts

7 Free or Almost Free Father’s Day Gifts

We’re not saying you need to cheap out on Dad but there’s nothing wrong with doing something amazing out of love rather than dumping a wad of cash on something that will become clutter.free fathers day

You know how we feel about clutter, right? ‘Cause you could read here if you’ve forgotten…. Continue reading

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Creating Summer Memories

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Vacations with the kids – how do you make these memories last?

Postcards and magnets are all fun, but to create true and lasting memories you want to go deeper. The best way to create positive memories that will last through adulthood is to focus on the quality time spent together as a family.

 

memoriesStart your vacation when you leave your house – not when you reach your destination.

Speed is not a goal, explore exciting discoveries along the way and get to know each other, too. When you see a sign for the world’s largest ball of twine – pull over and check it out! The excitement of discovery and the unknown is half the adventure. Plan spontaneity if you have to.

A long car ride can also be the perfect opportunity to get to know your children. Get a book of questions or create your own ahead of time. Questions such as “What is your favorite toy and why?” or “If you could be any animal in the world what would you be? Why?” are great conversation starters – and perfect ways to get to know your kids on a deeper level.

Make sure to include the why part of the question – this can lead to some interesting discussions.  Make sure everyone answers the question and has time to talk as long as they want to.

 

Create a family vacation scrapbook or journal!

Create a family vacation scrapbook or journal!

How do you record these memories?

One great way to keep the memory alive and special is to create a family vacation scrapbook or journal. Before leaving, arm each family member with a journal, a fun pen, a digital camera, and a large envelope.

Throughout the trip have them jot down favorite moments, thoughts, sketches, what they did, funny things other people said or write a narrative of parts of the trip. They can take pictures and collect brochures, leaves and other small, flat objects.

Combine memories into one scrapbook

When you get home combine everybody’s experiences, pictures, maps and artifacts into one scrapbook or even get them bound at your local office supply store. Captions can be added to photos and drawings can decorate the pages.

It is a lot of fun to see how everybody viewed the vacation and remembers different events. It is also a fun way to build a family experience library and look back as the kids grow up to see how they change.

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Make sure to focus on the real reason for a vacation – to relax, have fun and spend quality time together. This will make memories that will last a lifetime!

 

Read More Travel Tips HERE

 


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Suzanna Kaye is a professional organizer and owner of Spark! Organizing, LLC. She has special experience with organization for office, financial, ADD/ADHD, elderly, disabled, overwhelmed and special needs. With the belief that cluttered people are some of the most creative and interesting people she knows, she loves working with her clients in a supportive and loving environment. For more information about Suzanna visit our about us page, email info@SparkOrganizing.com or call 321-234-5499.

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Top Travel Safety Tips for How to Keep your Kids Out of Harm’s Way

Top Travel Safety Tips for

How to Keep your Kids Out of Harm’s Way

Keep your children safe with these travel safety tips

The holidays are a time when many of us travel. And everyone has a better trip when they feel and stay safe. People also tend to get excited or distracted when going to visit relatives or on vacation. So it’s important when traveling with your kids to follow these travel safety tips.

We think these general safety tips, airport security tips, health tips, and others are an excellent way to stay safe when taking a trip.

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The following are important general safety tips to follow no matter how you are getting to your destination:

  • Put an ID necklace or tag on your child for when traveling in airports, train stations, etc. Be sure to include your contact information and an alternate contact’s information. Do not put your child’s name in a visible place as this can be used to lure your child away from you. Their name should be on the inside or back side of the ID.
  • Bring a photo of your child in case you get separated. Make sure it is a physical copy in case your phone isn’t accessible or you are incapacitated.
  • Older children should know how to contact you and where to go if you get separated. Always, have a meeting place or plan.
  • Know what your child is wearing. Intentionally dress your kids in bright clothes. If possible wear the same bright-colored or patterned shirts yourself. This strategy makes you easy to spot.  And it helps people figure out which adult is the child’s parent and locate them if they find your child.
  • Finally, wear comfortable shoes. If a little one takes off running, you need to be able to move quickly.

When traveling by auto keep these travel safety tips in mind:

  • Check seat belts and car seats before leaving for comfort and visibility. If seat belts need more padding or an adjusting clip, do so before the day of the trip.
  • Make sure car seats leave enough visibility to see out windows easily. Make sure car seats are appropriate for your child’s age and safely secured.
  • An upcoming trip is an excellent time to double-check if you need to update your car seat. Also stop by the fire station to check that your seats are installed correctly.

travel safety tipsTips for airport security

  • Check with airlines about carry-on restrictions including size, weight, and contents. Do so ahead of time.
  • Leave extra time to go through security.  Stressed out parents lead to distressed kids. You and your child should wear slip-on shoes.
  • Prepare to remove your child from their stroller or carrier before going through security.
  • Make passing through security an educational experience. Explain how x-rays work and if possible let them see the screens nearby.  Explain what will happen to little kids to reduce fear. Laugh and make it a fun time to reduce anxiety. Kids look to their parents to see if they should be afraid of a new experience.
  • Make sure kids know not to joke about “a bomb in the bag” or any other suspicious activity. Even a joke from a child can delay the whole family in getting through security.
  • Bring non-liquid snacks. You can usually buy beverages once you have passed through security.
  • Inform security if your child has special needs or devices. If your child is disabled, let them know what your child is capable of (standing, walking, etc.) and what they are not able to do. Stay with them to help reduce fears.
  • To fly with breast milk or juice over 3 ounces, you must declare these items before screening. Separate these items from other liquids and store in a zip-top bag. These items may be subject to extra testing.

Health Tips

  • The day before make sure your children get extra rest, fluids, and healthy meals.
  • Install car sunscreens – even for older kids.
  • Open front windows in cars can be irritating to backseat passengers. So can too much sun. Even older children can benefit from sunglasses and a car sunscreen.
  • When flying time breastfeeding or bottles with taking off or landing. This strategy will help relieve ear popping.
  • Always use sunscreen – even for non-beach or pool trips! The sun can penetrate clothing and car windows, so if you will be out for awhile protect your kids.

travel safety tipsAdditional Travel Safety Tips

  • Bring a night light for overnight stays.
  • A carrier to put on your back or front for an infant is often easier than a stroller.
  • Find kid-friendly restaurants along your route with mykidsplate.com
  • Bungee cord car seats, backpacks, etc. to rolling luggage if possible.
  • Pack kid backpacks with their favorite toy, ID, snacks, and other necessities. Have them help you pack.
  • Wear comfortable clothes. You can change when you get to your destination if needed. Drawstring or loose elastic pants, stretchy, loose tops or tank tops, a sweater (for cooler air conditioned cars and planes) slip-on shoes, and comfy socks are best. Get silly socks for the car gift bag. It adds a layer of fun! Silly sunglasses, hats, etc. are also fun.
  • It is possible to rent baby items when away from home. Playpens, strollers and more are available from such places as Baby’s Away and other rental sites.
  • Use lists!

As you can see, there are a lot of travel safety tips to follow when traveling with your children.

Bookmark this article so you can easily find it before your next trip.

Following our general safety tips, airport security tips, health tips, and others are a great way to stay safe when traveling. Plus they help keep you organized. 😉

Have a great trip and stay safe!


suzanna-thumbSuzanna Kaye is a professional organizer and owner of Spark! Organizing, LLC. She has special experience with organization for office, financial, ADD/ADHD, elderly, disabled, overwhelmed and special needs. With the belief that cluttered people are some of the most creative and interesting people she knows, she loves working with her clients in a supportive and loving environment. For more information about Suzanna visit our about us page, email info@SparkOrganizing.com or call 321-234-5499.

I Want To Get Organized, But Where Do I Start?

I Want To Get Organized, But Where Do I Start?

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Dining Room Organization

Organize by taking one step at a time.

When was the last time you saw the counter under that jumble of paperwork?

We’re sure at one time we could fit a car in the garage, but how do we get back to those days? Where do we even start to get organized?

The hardest part is starting – or deciding where to start.

So, break it down!

Here are six steps and tricks to make the most of de-cluttering and organizing your home:

1.Break it down. Do it the same way you would eat an entire cheesecake – one bite at a time!

Break the job down into smaller, more manageable (and less daunting) parts. Depending on your organizing personality this may mean different things. It could mean tackling one room, one of its areas (just this bookcase or just this shelf) or setting a time limit (work for one hour per day.)

Breaking the larger job down reduces the stress and feelings of being overwhelmed. It also gives you the satisfaction of completion at each milestone.

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2.Get an accountability buddy.

Find a friend or group who will support you and hold you accountable to your goals. Other options include online groups. Or find a local meetup group for support and organizing tips (like “Central Florida Messies” through Meetup.com.)

If you want/need extra help and support, consider a professional organizer.

3.Categorize.

Separate items into categories.

Use cardboard boxes, laundry baskets or specific areas of a larger room to put like items together.

Use broad categories, no need to get too specific with your categories.

You can always break those down into smaller groups if you need to when you get to them.

One major group should be “Items that belong in other rooms”. Grouping prevents distraction and excessive walking throughout the house.

4.Trash, Donate, Keep or Sell.

As you categorize and as you put items away, decide what to do with each item. Does the item bring you joy? Do you have several of them? How often do you use it? Broken or damaged? Be picky about what you allow to stay. Your storage areas are prime property.

5.Analyze your space.

Look at your items broken down into categories, notice you can see how much of each type of item you have. This will help you determine how large of a container or shelf you will need to store the item.get organized6.Put it away.

Now when deciding where to put your things, use the ABC approach.

A- items, things you use all the time, B-items are used occasionally and C items are rarely used (once or twice per year.) Easy right? You’ve got this.

Easy to reach and easy to access is where A-items store.

B-items can be a little harder to reach, and C-items can go in attics, storage sheds or very high cabinets.

Use baskets and bins to keep smaller items together or to keep the shelves looking neat.

Now is the time to reward yourself. Take a picture of your accomplishment, call your buddy or group and get yourself some cheesecake – you did it. Enjoy it!

Tell me, in the comments, where will you start getting organized?

 


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Suzanna Kaye is a professional organizer and owner of Spark! Organizing, LLC. She has special experience with organization for office, financial, ADD/ADHD, elderly, disabled, overwhelmed and special needs. With the belief that cluttered people are some of the most creative and interesting people she knows, she loves working with her clients in a supportive and loving environment. For more information about Suzanna visit our about us page, email info@SparkOrganizing.com or call 321-234-5499.