Have you ever read the children's book, "The Phantom Tollbooth"? In it we meet the Terrible Trivium, demon of petty tasks and worthless jobs, ogre of wasted effort, and monster of habit. Our hero Milo asks,
"But why bother?"
"Because my young friends," he muttered sourly, "what could be more important than doing unimportant things? If you stop to do enough of them, you'll never get to where you're going". He punctuated his last remark with a villainous laugh.
"But why do only unimportant things?"
"Think of all the trouble it saves," the man explained, and his face looked as if he'd be grinning an evil grin - if he could grin at all. "If you only do the easy and useless jobs, you'll never have to worry about the important ones which are difficult. You just won't have the time. For there's always something to do to keep you from what you really should be doing, and if it weren't for that dreadful magic staff (a pencil for calculations), you'd never know how much time you were wasting."
I see posts on social media from Mommy friends about this exact problem. Yet, Gretchen Rubin pointed out the magic of a habit, they can bring you closer to success or destruction. Those mindless moments of habit can be the just the thing you need.
The habit of brushing and flossing our teeth, or not flossing our teeth, is something that protects our health. The bad habit of letting time flow between your fingers as you binge watch hours of TV each evening is a habit of relational destruction. We might tell ourselves we're mitigating our stress but really it's just a bad habit.
Habits that once set propel us to great things.
Many of us struggle with setting habits and making them stick. It doesn't have to be that way though. We can adapt and learn, even old dogs do.
If you haven't yet read the Four Tendencies or taken the quiz, I strongly recommend you do. It's insight into how you prefer to work.
I personally am also a rebel like Suzanna. This has made my life quite interesting as my Mother was an Upholder. She couldn't understand why I struggled and I couldn't understand how she could just decide, put it on the calendar and it was as good as done. For years I followed exactly that recipe, I'd set a goal, mark my calendar and then proceed to thumb my nose at it. Wondering why I couldn't get things done.
I'm still learning how to keep things to myself as I also am an auditory processor - I like to talk things out. I learn more in conversation than just thinking to myself. Yet, this one little trick has changed how I behave with tasks that I need to get done in a timely manner. I've gone so far as to not put it in my bullet journal until I've completed the task if I'm really struggling with it.
She has special experience with organization for office, financial, ADD/ADHD, elderly, disabled, overwhelmed and special needs. With the belief that cluttered people are some of the most creative and interesting people she knows, she loves working with her clients in a supportive and loving environment.
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